COMMON WAS BRAVE ENOUGH TO REVEAL THAT HE WAS SEXUALLY ABUSED BY A FAMILY FRIEND AS A CHILD.
Common has opened up and told his story of being molested. He repressed the memory for so many years. He talks about what happened to him in his new memoir “Let Love Have The Last Word”. One day while Common was talking through the script with Laura Dem for a scene in the movie “The Tale” he suddenly remembered moments from his past. According to People Magazine he wrote “I caught my breath and just kept looping the memories over and over, like rewinding an old VHS tape…I said Laura I think I was abused”. Common said the incident happened when he was 9 or 10 growing up in Chicago.
“I was excited for a road trip I was about to take with my family. My mother; my godmother, Barbara; her son and my god brother Skeet; and his relative, who I’ll call Brandon.”
Common said when he arrived at his Aunt’s home in Cleveland, he recalled how he and Brandon had to share a bed one night on the trip.
“At some point I felt Brandon’s hand on me,” he wrote. “I pushed him away. I don’t remember saying a whole lot besides ‘No, no, no.’”
Common wrote that no matter how much he protested, the alleged abuser would not let up. Common wrote that no matter how much he protested, the alleged abuser would not let up.
“He kept saying ‘It’s okay, It’s okay,’ as he pulled down my shorts and molested me. After he stopped, he kept asking me to perform it on him. I kept repeating ‘No’ and pushing him away,” he wrote. “I felt a deep and sudden shame for what happened.”
We hope Common knows he did nothing wrong and has no reason to feel ashamed.
Common said he put the whole thing in the back of his mind and suppressed it. He said maybe he was in survival mode. Common is now in therapy for what happened to him as a kid. He hasn’t seen the alleged abuser In almost 30 years.
Common seems to be working through what happened to him with no hate in his heart.
“I want to be a person who helps break cycles of violence,” he wrote. “This is love in action and I intend to practice it.”